How to Have Skype Sex or Facetime Sex for LDR Couples

Are you in a loving relationship with a romantic partner who lives hundreds if not thousands of miles away from you?

If so, you probably yearn every day to be with them again!

A part of that yearning is to just see and experience life with them in their presence.

Another part of it is a desire to engage in close physical intimacy with them. This lack of sexual intimacy can easily create a massive void in your life that is just begging to be filled.

But did you know that you don’t have to be sexually distant from your partner just because you can’t make love to them physically?

This is where learning how to have video sex (such as through Skype or Facetime) can come to your rescue!

Skype sex for couples in an LDR is a great way to spice up the relationship, be intimate, and maintain the connection even when miles apart.

Although having Facetime sex allows you to keep your sex life alive while you are away from each other, it can admittedly be a bit scary or awkward at first.

But don’t worry!

We’re here to teach you how to have Skype or Facetime sex the right way.

How to prepare for Skype sex

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First, what is Skype sex?

It can mean one of many things, but it ultimately means you and your partner turning on your webcams to engage in various forms of sexual acts even though you’re not in the same room.

However, Skype or Facetime sex is also more than just picking a date with your partner and then switching on the video camera when the time comes. It requires careful preparation, which not only builds up anticipation for the event but also will help make the video sex itself much more exhilarating.

You can prepare for your Skype sex session by doing the following:

Clear your diary

Make sure you have plenty of time for your upcoming Facetime sex session so you will not be bothered by ringing phones.

This is one reason why planning is so important! Get all work completed that needs to be done for the day, choose a time when you have a two to three-hour window at least, and make sure you’re in an environment where nobody else can disturb you.

Check your internet connection, your webcam, microphone, and camera

You need to make sure that everything is up and ready to roll. Test out your webcam, camera, speaker, and microphone before your session.

Also, ensure that your internet connection is stable – few things can ruin the mood of thrilling virtual sex more than a screen that becomes fuzzy or Wi-Fi connection that turns spotty.

Do whatever you need to be ready

In other words, do whatever you can to put yourself in a sexual mood. Only you know what turns you on, but some ideas worth a try include:

  • reading a sex book
  • listening to erotic fiction
  • sending flirty text messages
  • writing down your sexual fantasies
  • watching movies with your favorite sex scenes

Dress for the occasion so that you feel sexy

Let’s put it his way: just as you would dress to prepare for a real-life date and sexual encounter, so you should do for a virtual one as well.

For men, you can dress in a nice polo and trousers (or even a complete suit) as if you were preparing for a date. For women, you can wear a nice dress with makeup and skimpy lingerie underneath.

And remember, you can always have a virtual date with food and wine first before taking things to the next level!

Build up the tension

Pick a date with your partner and then steadily build the mood until the date of your sexual rendezvous arrives. The best way to do this is to send flirty text messages between one another throughout the day.

There are many good sexting ideas for long-distance relationships, but a couple of examples include:

  • “I haven’t concentrated all day thinking about you.”
  • “I’ve been bad, and I want you to punish me.”

What other ideas can you think of?

How to have Skype video sex

The above preparation tips will certainly help boost tension, but in the end, it all comes down to what you do for the video sex itself.

If you’re at a loss for ideas on what you can do on camera in front of one another, well, read on if you dare.

Be comfortable and communicate

Perhaps the most important tip of all is only to do what you and your partner are comfortable with. Talk and listen to one another, and set parameters about what is and isn’t allowed.

Be patient

If there’s anything that you really want to try, but your partner is not too excited about (or vice versa), the best advice is to be patient. As you do more sexual things on camera, the more comfortable you’ll get, and therefore more open to trying new things.

Play a sex game

There are so many video sex game ideas that we can’t list all of them out here, but one of our favorites is truth or dare. All you need to do is add a naughty twist to this classic game.

For truths, you can ask your partner:

  • “Tell me in detail about your first sexual experience.”
  • “Do you prefer to dominate or be dominated?”
  • “Have you ever watched another couple have sex?”
  • “What is a fantasy you’ve always wanted but never experienced?”

For dares, which can get even more interesting, you can dare your partner to:

  • Dance naked to a song of your choice.
  • Slather whipped cream or chocolate on different parts of their body and then lick it off if they can.
  • Place random items (such as a towel) over his penis and try to balance or hold them up, or place similar random items between her breasts and try to hold them in place.
  • Briefly go over to a window naked, or (if you’re really feeling risky) go completely outside naked before quickly coming back in.

Explore some fantasies

While you may not be able to explore fantasies that involve real sex in the same room, there are still plenty of fantasies you can do over the video, right?

For example, you could role play that you’re a director directing your actor/actress partner on a nude scene. Or, you could role play that you’re a doctor holding a virtual checkup who needs to have your patient/partner undress for an examination.

Use long-distance sex toys

There are many kinds of sex toys designed specifically for long-distance couples to help simulate remote sex or masturbation. These toys connect wirelessly via a mobile app, and can even be used to control the movements of one another.

The male sex toy is usually a sleeve designed to fit over your erect penis, while the female sex toy is usually a vibrator designed to slide into your vagina.

With the app, you can send movements and pulsations to your partner’s toy, so they gradually feel greater pleasure and eventually experience an incredible orgasm.

Check out the best long distance relationship sex toys!

Watch porn together

Do you really want to get into your dirty side? Watch the same explicit porn clips at the same time, and then comment on what you see or what you like to one another as you watch. Porn is always more exhilarating when you watch it with another person.

Explore your dirty talk skills

This is more of a foreplay idea, but it certainly will put the mood in the right place: just talk dirty to one another throughout your rendezvous. Simply saying, “I want your eyes all on me” or “I want you to make me come” helps your partner feel desired.

Do not get too serious

Besides experiencing intimacy with another person, the whole point of sex is to enjoy one another. Don’t take things too seriously, and remember you can do literally anything you want. Have fun, laugh, and play!

Explore different places

No place is off-limits when you have video sex. Well, you probably shouldn’t be out in public, but you get the idea.

For example, who says you have to stay in the bedroom? One idea would be to watch each other take a bath or a shower. You could also turn it into a game where one of you takes a shower, and the other directs you on what to do.

Another idea is to head to the kitchen. Simply doing the dishes or cooking food completely naked while your partner watches can be a major turn-on.


The above Skype sex tips can help to keep your LDR alive with physical intimacy even when you are not together.

If there’s one final piece of advice you should know, it’s be creative. There are probably a lot of other sexy ideas we haven’t mentioned here that you can try over webcam with your partner as well.

What should stop you from giving any of them a shot?

We are Max from France and Ella from Finland. We met in Australia in 2008 while we were both backpacking around this amazing country. After returning to Europe, we went through all the hardships of a long-distance relationship for almost three years! And we survived it!

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