If you are in an LDR, you have probably wondered, “How do I know my partner really loves me?” To help you figure it out, here are 12 signs of true love in a long-distance relationship.
I wanted to share this list of signs I looked for when my boyfriend and I lived in different countries to help lift any doubt you may have about your LDR partner’s feelings.
I have to admit that I have also wondered, “Does my long-distance boyfriend love me?” And asking this question is totally legit! When you are not together on a daily basis, it’s hard to pick on things that bother you about your partner, so you can easily confuse what you share with real love.
Now, don’t worry anymore and keep reading to find the signs of true love of real long-distance relationships.
- 1. You Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
- 2. You Can’t Wait to Be Together
- 3. They Don’t Shy Away from Expressing How Much They Miss You
- 4. You Have Healthy and Constructive Arguments
- 5. They Don’t Commit to Something They Can’t Do
- 6. You Both Cherish and Support Each Other’s Independence
- 7. You Always Put Respect First
- 8. They Don’t Let the Romance Die Out
- 9. You Try New LDR Dates & Activities
- 10. You Are Equally Working Towards Mutual Goals
- 11. You Get To Know Each Other’s Friends and Families
- 12. You Trust Each Other 100%
- Wrapping It Up
1. You Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Long-distance relationships require a lot of communication compared to short-distance relationships to compensate for the time you spend apart.
However, as an experienced LDR couple, you’ve probably figured out that over-communicating can do more damage than good. It’s okay to keep texting and calling to a minimum for a while. It will give you the chance to build up the conversation material.
After all, you are grown-ups with personal needs. If your partner wants to play Candy Crush Saga, let him/her do it. We all need some time on our own!
2. You Can’t Wait to Be Together
Do you still do the cheesy countdown until the next time you see each other? Do you check the calendar to see if you are one day closer to your next meeting? If so, whatever you are doing, it’s working just fine!
Longing for your partner and their physical presence is a good sign of healthy long-distance love. It might be painful to miss somebody as much, but it’s a good sign. It means the fire is still burning, and the relationship is holding strong.
3. They Don’t Shy Away from Expressing How Much They Miss You
With time, “I miss you” and “I love you” tend to turn into habitual expressions. It doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t telling the truth, they probably do miss and love you, but sometimes we need some ‘proof.’
Going out of your way to show it and not just saying it will make your partner feel special, wanted, and cared for. Send her flowers when she is the least expecting it or write him a letter the old-fashioned way. A nice surprise will make their day, and the distance will feel less painful.
4. You Have Healthy and Constructive Arguments
Can you point to a couple who has never had a fight? Probably not, so don’t let your head convince you that others have it perfect, because probably they don’t!
LDRs are even harder than regular relationships because between the things you say and the things you don’t see, there is a gap full of misunderstanding and confusion.
When you have spent a lot of time apart, it’s easier to lean towards anger and holding grudges, but try to shift your focus and concentrate on your love and all the positive aspects of your relationship and your future together.
5. They Don’t Commit to Something They Can’t Do
Experiencing one disappointment after another can be a deal-breaker in any relationship.
If you can’t do a video call every day, don’t say you will. No one wants to feel like their partner doesn’t even try hard enough to make it work. That’s when you might start asking yourself: “does my long-distance boyfriend love me?”
Eventually, you will start holding grudges, and things will turn toxic. So, if you both have successfully stayed away from making promises you can’t keep, you’ve learned one of the hardest lessons in an LDR.
6. You Both Cherish and Support Each Other’s Independence
If you can avoid unhealthy codependency and not run everything by your partner, you are probably sharing a healthy and stable connection.
Younger and inexperienced couples, especially in LDRs, get easily infatuated with each other. When the miles in between are many, you try to compensate by intensifying communication in any way possible. Sometimes, this becomes a burden and adds extra pressure that can harm your relationship.
Take a step back and see which things are important and significant to share.
7. You Always Put Respect First
Respect is a vital part of any relationship, not just an LDR. Time will come when you won’t understand your partner’s decisions or won’t support and agree with the actions they took while you were physically apart, but you will respect them because you believe in their ability to make a good judgment.
8. They Don’t Let the Romance Die Out
Being apart sucks when it comes to physical intimacy and keeping it interesting in the ‘bedroom.’ However, we have been blessed with some amazing technology that can keep everyone’s imagination rolling.
All you need is a bit of creativity and willingness to make your partner feel desired and loved even when there are hundreds of miles between you two!
9. You Try New LDR Dates & Activities
Successful LDR couples don’t leave much to fate, they take action. When you know your partner well enough and understand their likes and dislikes, it’s easy to find fun and creative ways to spend your time together.
You can have a cook-off, plan your next trip together or even exercise on camera. Trying new LDR dates and activities will strengthen and deepen your bond and make it easier to break the distance.
10. You Are Equally Working Towards Mutual Goals
If you are a woman, you may wonder, “How do I know he loves me in a long-distance relationship?”
The answer is easy – you are both working toward the same life goal that will take your relationship to the next level.
May it be marriage, moving in together, or having kids, if you are putting equal effort into reaching your long-term goals, you are already making your long-distance relationship work!
11. You Get To Know Each Other’s Friends and Families
Getting to know your partner’s family is a great step in any relationship, especially when it comes to long-distance relationships. It means that the relationship is stable, and you see a future together.
Involving your families also means that you are serious and committed to each other, and you want to share your happiness with the people you love.
12. You Trust Each Other 100%
Mutual trust is one of the strongest signs of true love in a long-distance relationship. It’s the best thing ever when you don’t have to worry about where your partner was, who they went out with, or who is that person commenting on their social media.
Doubt is sneaky. If there aren’t obvious red flags, don’t allow it to come between you and your significant other. Because trust is like glass. Once broken, you can try to put the pieces together, but you will always see the cracks.
Wrapping It Up
Maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship might be the hardest challenge you ever face. I hope that these signs helped you strengthen the idea that you are living a true love relationship and that you will stop wondering how to know if your long-distance boyfriend or girlfriend is serious.
Now, to help you break the routine in your LDR, I invite you to read 38 Fun Long-Distance Relationship Games & Activities you can try today!