Have you ever met anyone who said, “Yeah, my boyfriend lives on another continent, and it’s the best thing ever”?
Most likely, everyone you know and is in a long-distance relationship says the same thing:
“It slowly turns into daily Skype ‘reports’ if you don’t do something to keep love alive.“
When you are not exposed to one another on a daily basis, it’s hard to pick on things that bother you about your partner, so you can easily confuse what you share with true love.
However, there are quite a few couples whose love successfully defies time and distance.
There are many things you can do, from spicing things up with sexy chats or LDR games to showing trust and dedication. But if that’s still not enough, this is how to figure out the signs of true love in your LDR.
- 1. You Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
- 2. You Can’t Wait to Be together
- 3. You Don’t Shy Away from Expressing How Much You Miss Each Other
- 4. You Have Healthy and Constructive Arguments
- 5. You Don’t Commit to Something You Can’t Really Do
- 6. You Both Cherish and Support Each Other’s Independence
- 7. Respect Always Comes First
- 8. You Don’t Let the Romance Die Out
- 9. You Try New LDR Dates & Activities
- 10. You Are Equally Working Towards a Mutual Goal
- 11. You Have Your Families’ Support
- 12. Trust Is Everything
- Wrapping It Up
1. You Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Long-distance relationships require a lot of communication to compensate for the time you spend apart.
However, as an experienced LDR couple, you’ve probably figured out that over-communicating can do more damage than good. It’s okay to keep texting and calling to a minimum for a while. It will give you the chance to build up the conversation material.
‘Does my long-distance boyfriend love me if he hasn’t heard about what I had for breakfast?’ Probably, yes. Don’t make your world revolve around your partner.
After all, you are grown-ups with personal needs. If he wants to play Candy Crush Saga, let him do it. We all need some time on our own!
2. You Can’t Wait to Be together
Do you still do the cheesy countdown to the next time you see each other? Do you check the calendar to see if you are one day closer to your next meeting? If so, whatever you are doing, it’s working just fine!
Longing for your partner and their physical presence is a good sign of healthy long-distance love. It might be painful to miss somebody as much, but it’s a good sign. It means the fire is still burning, and the relationship is holding strong.
3. You Don’t Shy Away from Expressing How Much You Miss Each Other
With time, “I miss you” and “I love you” tend to turn into habitual expressions. It doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t telling the truth, they probably do miss and love you, but sometimes we need some ‘proof.’
Going out of your way to show it and not just say it will make your partner feel special, wanted, and cared for. Send her flowers when she is the least expecting it or write him a letter the old-fashioned way. A nice surprise will make their day, and the distance will feel less painful.
4. You Have Healthy and Constructive Arguments
Can you point to a couple who has never had a fight? Probably not, so don’t let your head convince you that others have it perfect, because probably they don’t!
LDRs are even harder than regular relationships because between the things you say and the things you don’t see, there is a gap full of misunderstanding and confusion.
When you have spent a lot of time apart, it’s easier to lean towards anger and holding grudges, but try to shift your focus and concentrate on your love and all the positive aspects of your relationship.
5. You Don’t Commit to Something You Can’t Really Do
Experiencing one disappointment after another can be a deal-breaker in any relationship.
If you can’t do a video call every day, don’t say you will. No one wants to feel like their partner doesn’t even try hard enough to make it work.
Eventually, you will start holding grudges, and things will turn toxic. So, if you both have successfully stayed away from making promises you can’t keep, you’ve learned one of the hardest lessons in an LDR.
6. You Both Cherish and Support Each Other’s Independence
If you can avoid unhealthy codependency and not run everything by your partner, you are probably sharing a healthy and stable connection.
Younger and inexperienced couples, especially in LDRs, get easily infatuated with each other. When the miles in between are many, you try to compensate by intensifying communication in any way possible. Sometimes, this becomes a burden and adds extra pressure that can harm your relationship.
Take a step back and see which things are important and significant to share.
7. Respect Always Comes First
Respect is a vital part of any relationship, not just an LDR. Time will come when you won’t understand your partner’s decisions or won’t support and agree with the actions they took while you were physically apart, but you will respect them because you believe in their ability to make a good judgment.
8. You Don’t Let the Romance Die Out
Being apart sucks when it comes to physical intimacy and keeping it interesting in the ‘bedroom.’ However, we have been blessed with some amazing technology that can keep everyone’s imagination rolling.
All you need is a bit of creativity and willingness to make your partner feel desired and loved even when there are hundreds of miles between the two of you!
9. You Try New LDR Dates & Activities
Successful LDR couples don’t leave much to fate, they take action. When you know your partner good enough, and you understand their likes and dislikes, it’s easy to come up with fun and creative ways to spend your time together.
You can have a cook-off, plan your next trip together or even exercise on camera. Trying new LDR dates and activities will strengthen and deepen your bond and will make it easier to break the distance.
10. You Are Equally Working Towards a Mutual Goal
How to know if he loves you in a long-distance relationship?
The answer is easy – you are both working toward the same goal that will take your relationship to the next level. May it be marriage, moving in together or having kids, if you are putting equal effort into reaching this mutual goal, you were probably lucky enough to find true love in your long distance relationship.
11. You Have Your Families’ Support
Having your friends and families on-board is a huge plus, especially when it comes to long-distance relationships. It means that the relationship is stable, and you see a future together. Involving your families means that you are serious and committed to each other, and you want to share your happiness with the people you love.
12. Trust Is Everything
Mutual trust is one of the strongest signs of true love in a long-distance relationship. It’s the best thing ever when you don’t have to worry about where your partner was, who they went out with, or who is that person commenting on their social media.
Doubt is sneaky. If there aren’t obvious red flags, don’t allow it to come between you and your significant other. Because trust is like glass. Once broken, you can try to put the pieces together, but you will always see the cracks.
Wrapping It Up
Nothing goods come easy. Maintaining a healthy long-distance true love might be the hardest challenge you ever face. But, if you are willing to put in the effort, and nurture the connection you share regardless of time and distance, you might just end up writing the best love story of your life.